What Do I Do When I Don’t Want To Be Pure: Part 3 Purity Series

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Purity Part 3

Want to be pure? Purity is not an easy thing. There are temptations everywhere, and there are times when you are so tempted to grab hold and take a ride down the wild side. What do you do when you don’t want to be pure, and when temptation is so strong that you want to go for it? We’ll get to that in a minute.

But first, I want to recap the series and what we’ve talked about so far. In Part One, What is Purity?, I gave definition to what it actually is. It’s more than just about sex. It’s a way of living.

In Part Two, How To Stay Pure, I gave some insight on what living a pure life would require and how we know if our thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors meet God’s measurement for purity.

Alright. Let’s get to it!

I Don’t Want To Be Pure

Today, I’m going to talk about the truth that all of us face no matter what our age. The truth is, there are times when we don’t want to be pure. We want to give in to that temptation because we think we will be liked, loved, or thought to be worthy of someone we want to impress. It could even be ourselves we want to impress. The point is, we all are tempted every day!


But as a young woman, temptation can easily engulf you.


It’s not easy being a girl, especially a Christian girl.

I know. I understand because I lived that life as a teenager. I get it completely! However, if I had known what I know now about God’s Word towards me as a young person back then, I don’t think it would have been so difficult. It still would have been hard, but at least I would have had the knowledge that I will share with you today which gives me strength now. I hope it does for you as well.

(This is a longer post than I normally write, but it’s an important one. So, please read to the end.)


It’s Too Hard

Remember the verse I shared from Psalms in the last post?

“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Praise be to you, Lord; teach me your decrees..” (Psalm 119:9-12, NIV)




God is addressing you in this verse. He knows that being a young person is hard, yet He gives you, specifically, directions on how to live. Here’s another verse to look at:


1 Timothy 4:12 (NIV)
Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.


He knows that people might not take you seriously, but He says you can be an example for others in how you live your life in purity.

1 Timothy 4 is a great chapter for you to read because Timothy is actually probably close to your age at the time Paul writes this letter to him. Paul goes on to encourage Timothy to live a pure life by giving him specific advice.


1 Timothy 4:7-10 Living Bible (TLB)

Don’t waste time arguing over foolish ideas and silly myths and legends. Spend your time and energy in the exercise of keeping spiritually fit. Bodily exercise is all right, but spiritual exercise is much more important and is a tonic for all you do. So exercise yourself spiritually, and practice being a better Christian because that will help you not only now in this life, but in the next life too. 9-10 This is the truth and everyone should accept it. We work hard and suffer much in order that people will believe it, for our hope is in the living God who died for all, and particularly for those who have accepted his salvation.


Did you notice what I bolded in the verse? The part about practicing? That’s what our jobs are as Christians. The word, Christian, actually means “follower of Christ.” It doesn’t say we’re perfect like Christ. We are practicing to be like Him.

That means it won’t be easy; it won’t be error proof. We will make mistakes, but God has given us a way out, even if you’re a Christian teen girl in today’s society.




How do I deal with the temptation?

As of this writing, I’m doing a book study by Priscilla Shirer called, Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan for Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer. (You should read it if you’re interested in being a prayer warrior.) There is a chapter on purity, and I learned some things that I hope will help you as you battle the temptations you face.


Satan knows your weaknesses.


He knows you want that boy to notice you or you want to belong to a certain group of people.


So, when you’re at your weakest moment, he pounces.


He makes the temptations seem ok and like no one will be hurt by what you do.


If you are feeling that way, you’re not spending enough time with God because when you are spending the time with Him, you’ll see those temptations as they really are, horrific!

They will hurt someone, probably you for sure.

So, how do you handle all of this?

Step 1 in dealing with temptation is Spending Time With God. Read the Bible, attend youth groups and other classes at your church. Pray.

When you pray with passion from a heart that truly wants to live a pure life and please God, your prayers are a powerful weapon against the schemes of the enemy.


It’s a cycle.

Purity leads to passionate prayer which in turn leads to living a pure life. You can’t go wrong.


Step 2 in dealing with temptation is Passionately Pray.

Tell God your deepest, darkest secrets. He knows them already anyway (see Psalm 139), but He wants you to spill your guts to Him. He wants to know you truly want to pursue purity.

Let Him know what temptations you’re facing and ask Him for His help. He’ll hear you and help you.


Now, you might need to pray often.

Sometimes, I’ve been known to pray within seconds of my last prayer because I feel weak already again.

Do it. Pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).


Step 3: Make a Choice. It finally comes down to making a choice. You have to decide if you will succumb to the temptation or stay strong in your purity.

Let’s talk about what’s in store for you with the choice you make.

Door #1: Temptation

Temptation will more than likely send you on the path of sin.

According to Priscilla Shirer, “impure thinking, relationships, affections . . . creates a perfect breeding ground for demonic activity.”

When we sin, we will always face consequences because it separates us from God.

Impurity weakens our prayer power. God won’t listen to a person who lives a double life.

He wants you on fire for Him only.


Door #2: Purity

When we choose purity or righteous living, we will always be close to God and receive blessings from Him.

Our eyes will open immediately to the danger of sin.

Our purity will deflect the enemy.


We will be “protected, at rest, full of God’s power, have confidence and live righteously”. Our prayers will have the ultimate power, and

God will give us what we need

in order for us to pursue a life of purity.



So. What will it be?

What door do you choose?


Join me for the next post when I give you some resources that should help you gain strength to live in purity. See ya’ then. In the meantime, comment below on what you do when you face temptation or let me know how I can be praying for you.


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